Beyonce’s new release is producing a storm of different currents among women – of all colors.  Her recent interview spoke about:

“Embracing your sexuality and there is a double standard when it comes to sexuality that still persists.  Men are free and women are not?  The old lessons of submissiveness and fragility made us victims.  Women are so much more than that.  You can be a businesswoman, a mother, an artist, and a feminist – whatever you want to be – and still be a sexual being.  It’s not mutually exclusive.”

The first thing we must establish is what is the definition of “feminism.” Feminism is a movement for women’s rights, the movement committed to securing and defending rights and opportunities for women that are equal to those of men.

Now that we have established the definition – let’s talk about women, in general.  Each woman in her own rights decides the extent to which she will use her sexual being.  Some women use their sexuality to advance in life. Others let mother nature take care of their feelings and emotions in their relationships in life.  The part of the interview which was disagreeable was the “men are free and women are not.”  Women have to understand they are as free as they allow themselves to be and if they want to  inject submissiveness and fragility into the mix, it is their call.  The one thing that was not injected into the interview was the power that women have in just one word in their vocabulary.  The word “NO.”  Does the word “no”  in a man’s vocabulary have the same meaning and power.  Absolutely not!  Some people get so busy in life trying to decide how much they are getting and if they are getting their share, they forget to live it.

The next part of this conversation is the sexual being.  In the animal world, they wear no clothes, just the covering of their body – fur – which is something people do not have.  So it is left up to each individual as to how much covering they attach.  We all have the same women body parts – some more and others less.  Some women expose themselves with the cheeks hanging out and the booty exposed –  all of the gyrations, bumping and humping (how old school is that).  That is fine; but, what is left after that?  Did you shock anyone – no!  Did anyone remember this exposure the next time you saw them in public?  Or did you say or use a word that was shocking and people reminded you of that word the next time you were in public.  No!  They might remember that you said it; but they are not going to remind you to say it again. So why go to all of that trouble to remind people you can say or do whatever you want?  So this takes us back to the  “women are not free.”

Each woman is as free as she allows herself to be.  She just has to live with whatever her decision is which paves the pathway in her life.  The culture and upbringing is the next step.  Each women in the world is different, especially in her culture.  So whatever we carve out for ourselves, we have to live with it.  So don’t blame other women and quit trying to equate yourselves to men.  You are not a man and will never be unless you make yourself into a man.  Use your womanhood to your advantage and quit dragging that ball and chain and wasting time over something that only exists in your mind.

How sexual you want to be is up to each individual.  A friend once told a story about a person who was sexually active.  Her tale was that every time she saw this person in her  mind she thought, “if this woman had as many holes poking out of her as she had poked into her, she would look like a porcupine.” My question was, how do you know this to be true?  Just women tales, she replied!   

We have to remember that Beyonce is an artist – a good one, a good mother, and a good wife.  But behind all of that – she has to continue to reinvent herself to make money.  So don’t go get all “hot and bothered” about something that only you can allow and control – that is “yourself.”

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