Parenting is becoming very hard on women’s mental health.  Not because of parenting; but, due to not taking care of themselves.  Women complain about children always interrupting them.  Children are not the problem – the parents are the problem.    In  my opinion, the problem is the lack  of physical or emotional boundaries between the parents and the children.  In order to garner respect,  parents have to establish  boundaries between  themselves and their children.   

The parents establish when their children  can or cannot be in their space.   Example:  Some days we could play indoors and some days we had to play outdoors.  It was clear who made the decision – the parents  – not the child – and it usually was the mother.    We respected our parents and obeyed them – or there were consequences.  We never yelled or called them names.  We never demanded anything and we did  not take them for granted. 

Parents, today, do not let their children solve their own problems while growing  up.  Therefore, children do not establish emotional boundaries.   Parents try to solve all of the problems for their children whether it entails their successes or failures.  The children have to learn by failing or succeeding on their own.  And, when the children do not solve all of their problems – it is not the end of the world.  The parents in the end make or break the problem with a two letter word called “NO.”

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