The break-up of families in America is a growing concern.  I think it stems  from a drastic change in the attitudes and philosophies of our men and women.  Women have the idea that they can raise their own families without a father.  Men on the other hand feel like”why should I buy the store when the candy is free.”  So that adds up to a culture that forgets about the “little people” who have been brought into the world.  When a divorce occurs with a child or children, where does that leave the child since he loves both parents.  Normally, the child is shuffled back and forth between the parents which leaves the child very confused with no stability.  I wish we had an organization that could be established to serve in the middle of the parents that could serve as the stabilizer.  A lot of times with this instability the child feels on his own without the experience of  knowing how to handle problems.  His parents are busy with their own new experiences so the child does not really have anyone to turn to because  in most cases now there are four people to contend with and he feels like an outsider.  And, in some cases, due to not following one of the parent’s rules, the child is “kicked out” of one of the parents homes, he is then really confused.  He now has only his other parent, plus a girlfriend/boyfriend that the parent  is living with, who has no attachment to the child.  Therefore, it only gets more confusing for the young person.  That is when things get rough for the child;  and,  in most cases,  he becomes involved with people who do not act in his best interest.  I think a place called, “home base,” should be established.  These are people who are not able to  have children but want to help children and can sign up with a judge’s office to be the alternate home base (for use only when needed) for any children involved in a divorce case.  This would give them a stable environment until the parents become more stable.  Maybe then they would not fall in the crack of  “self-destruction.”

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